Impatience causes you to overreact in angry, foolish, regrettable ways. The irony of anger towards a wrongful action is that it spawns new wrongs of its own. Anger almost never makes things better. In fact, it usually generates additional problems.
But patience stops problems in their tracks. It stops foolishness from whipping it's scorpion tail all over the room. It is a choice to control your emotions, rather than let your emotions control you, and shows discretion instead of returning evil for evil.
If your spouse offends you, do you quickly retaliate or do you stay under control? Do you find anger is your emotional default when treated unfairly? If so, you are spreading poison rather than medicine.
Anger is usually caused when the strong desire for something is mixed with disappointment or grief. It is often an emotional reaction that flows out of our own selfishness, foolishness or evil motives.
Lack of patience turns the home into a warzone, but the practice of patience will foster peace and quiet.
Patience helps give your spouse permission to be human. It understands that everyone fails. When a mistake is made, it chooses to give them more time than they deserve to correct it. It gives you the ability to hold on during the tough times rather than bailing out under the pressure.
Be completely humble and gentle; be patient(with longsuffering), bearing with one another in love. Ephesians 4:2
A patient(slow to anger) man has great understanding,
but a quick-tempered (impulsive) man displays folly
Proverbs 14:29
A hot tempered man stirs up strife,
But he who is slow to anger (patient) calms a quarrel.
Proverbs 15:18
See that no one repays evil for evil to anyone, but always pursue what is good for one another. 1 Thessalonians 5:15
If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to be burned in the flames, but have not love, it's worth nothing. 1 Corinthians 13:3
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This is a really good post. Such wisdom displayed. You posted things that I am truly getting a grasp on (just this year!). Thank you so much. I thought I accidentally stumbled upon your blog while looking for something else. I see this was divinely appointed. Blessings!
ReplyDeleteSuch a great thing for me to read in the morning. Thank you! :)
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