Excellent Wife

FROM THE EXCELLENT WIFE BY MARTHA PEACE
No skill will help a wife more in conflict with her husband than the ability to communicate biblically. Biblical communication is based on the principles of God’s Word. God’s desire for a wife is to train her tongue to respond properly in every situation. It can be done. Getting control of her tongue is one of the wife’s first steps in biblically submitting herself to God and her husband.

This will take much practice and prayer. If a wife is frightened, frustrated or angry, at first it may be difficult for her to think straight about what she should say or do. But, by God’s grace, she can learn. A wife can learn how to biblically respond to her husband in a God-honoring way.

God-honoring responses are gentle, loving in tone, and edifying to the hearer. For example, instead of "snapping" at her husband in a harsh manner, a godly wife thinks about what she is going to say and how she is going to say it. Then, she responds with great care. That is God-honoring speech.
"Giving a ‘blessing instead’ is not easy. It is especially difficult if a wife is struggling with bitter feelings such as hurt and resentment. She may even balk at the idea thinking bitterly, ‘But he doesn’t deserve it!’ That may seem true from a human perspective, but blessing him with kindness is one of God’s most gracious and powerful ways.

Failure to communicate biblically is sin — disobedience to God. A wife’s own sin always makes her situation worse. But she can honor God with her obedience, by following the admonition of Ephesians 4:29, "Let no unwholesome word proceed from your mouth, but only such a word as is good for edification according to the need of the moment, that it may give grace to those who hear." Her tongue will become an instrument of God’s grace. In this there is not only protection, but blessing.

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